Green Tea and Dark Chocolate

A slightly abstract and out-of-character scene of thoughts I'm thinking at this moment.

It's cold outside. I like that. Cold and Florida are strangers, so it's good when they have time to get to know one another. I'm just sitting here at my computer listening to music, enjoying being cozy in my room, sipping green tea and nibbling on leftover Valentine's Dove chocolate - yeah, it's good.

I've been reading Oscar Wilde. I'm only a quarter of the way through Collins Complete Works Of. He knew very well how to evoke emotion through writing. But his theology is all wrong. Love (meaning pity and kindness) doesn't fix everything. Having a hard heart, and then experiencing persecution, being outcast, going through tough times, and coming out soft doesn't all add up to redemption.

But I'm realizing that that is what most Christians think Jesus and the Bible are all about. Sure, Jesus taught us to love one another, and help those in need. But that's not the essence of the Gospel, it's the outcome. People are not hard shells with soft hearts. They are all rotten to the core, deceitfully wicked beings who need to be transformed by the power of God. That is how we get Paradise with God. Not through an act of sacrifice - obedience is better than sacrifice - and not through human love.

Oscar Wilde does bring out good moral points, though. Even though we should not look to any man's writings for the answer to spiritual problems, there are some common sense lessons we can derive from them. But, then again, there is no conundrum that the Bible doesn't hold the solution to.

In any case, I will finish reading Collins Complete Works of Oscar Wilde for social and educational reasons, however shallow they are, and continue to turn to God and His Word for guidance and wisdom concerning the problems of mankind.

Raising Godly Women

It's 911 Time for Christian Girlhood
By Ingrid Schlueter

I won't waste time trying to convince you that the death rattle of our once strong American society is getting louder. Let me just say that in every corner of our culture, there are signs that we are in a death spiral as a nation. Whether we look at our nation's public schools, bristling with security to keep kids from killing each other, the dance of despair carried out by Sodom's children in the media every night, the postmodern absurdity of today's art galleries that display things like unmade beds or used prophylactic devices and call them profound, or the sheer moral squalor that leers at us from the magazine racks at the grocery store, the decay is amply evident.

One of the casualties of our culture's rejection of God has been womanhood. A women's movement that at one time fought for equal protection under the law for women, rights to custody of their own children and property ownership now is responsible for 18-year-old former cheerleaders being sent into combat in Iraq. The basic courtesies that used to be shown to women in public were abandoned decades ago. Girls are not taught how to care for their husbands and homes, they are put into sports leagues early on and taught how to ''kick some butt'', as one father put it. Girls need to learn how to fight and compete in this dog eat dog world, they say. Girls are expected to have a career track outside the home, and they are asked from early on what it is they want to ''be''.

The styles and fashions point to a near total abandonment of modesty as power and instead, girls are taught that their sexuality is their power. That's why soft, feminine and modest clothing is unlikely to make a comeback in the girls and junior departments any time soon. To be feminine and modest is read as weakness and vulnerability today. Whereas once, womanhood was thought to be something worthy of male protection and respect, women are now one of the guys, with some highly flaunted anatomical differences. Rather than see sexuality as sacred and private, women have believed the lies of the media and see it as a tool to control and dominate.

Into this toxic culture come our young Christian girls. By all appearances, many Christian parents are taking their cues and their child rearing philosophy from the world. Other than within homes where there is a purposeful intent to teach otherwise, many Christian girls live in a fashion that is hard to distinguish from the world. Smaller families have meant less of an opportunity for girls to learn how to be mothers. Rather than girls growing up being tutored by watching their mothers care for home and family, girls are more likely to grow up while mom works outside the home. Like secular middle-class counterparts, Christian homes and families center their lives around their kids' activities. Chances for a young girl to help care for the home or be a consistent help to her mother are few and far between. Life is often about keeping the kids happy while valuable lessons are lost in the scheduling shuffle.

So how should Christian girls differ from the unsaved counterparts? Their entire worldview should be different. This means that exposing girls to a lot of secular television, including the Disney Channel, warps their perspective on what it is to be a young lady. One Christian girl confided that she had watched the Disney movie, ''High School Musical'' countless times. She giggled that she was ''kinda boy crazy.'' The problem with this is that ''High School Musical'' represents life utterly without God. There is humanism at its core and a fleshly, carnal view of life's purpose. This philosophy is at complete odds with our true reason for living—to glorify God and enjoy Him forever. When children are at tender ages, these messages are driven home. The entertainment we allow in our homes must comport with what the children are learning from Scripture or the message is canceled out.

Secondly, a Christian girl is a useful one. Idleness is one of the biggest contributors not only to moral problems, but to things like obesity. I believe there's a direct correlation between the advent of the Internet and the epidemic of weight problems among the young. Girls are leaving school and their peer packs only to get home and spend inordinate amounts of time instant messaging their friends online. Christian girls can and should make better use of their time. As a mother, I have tried to involve my daughter in house work from early on. (Our son does his share as well.) When a parent begins training at a young age, the girl doesn't think there's anything strange about doing a load of laundry or mopping the kitchen floor. Try to introduce this at 16 and see what happens.

A friend recently told me how she had been ill for several days. The family had several younger children and their oldest was a 15-year-old daughter. This home schooled girl literally took over for her mother, helping with the little ones, seeing that supper was on the table and that things were picked up around the house. The daughter was a competent and confidant young woman because she had been taught well. Rather than lie in bed, feeling guilty at being ill, the mother could relax and know that needs in the home were being met. She had earned her own rest.

There are many homes where the outcome would have been very different. Self-absorbed, selfish and untrained in womanly arts, many teen girls would have turned to her dad and demanded that he hit the local drive-through window, instead. We expect too little from our girls today and the failure to teach and train our daughters as mothers can have generational consequences. The homes of our grandchildren will be determined by the character and teaching we mothers instill in our daughters. If girls are raised on television, teen magazines, popular music and their peers, they will be unprepared to be Christian wives and mothers who will run their own homes with godliness and gravity. They will be a burden to whatever husband marries them. Their children will be deeply affected by the atmosphere they create in their own homes.

Scripture describes the model of older women teaching younger women. How many modern evangelical churches actively encourage mentoring by older women of the girls and young women in the congregation? How much godly wisdom and knowledge is being wasted because of our obsession with age segregation in churches today? Churches are being disobedient to God's Word when they fail to facilitate intergenerational ministry in the lives of young women.
Let the world carry on with its own sad travesty of girlhood. We as Christian parents should pray for our daughters, that we would raise them faithfully---not as the tragic girls of Sodom, but as handmaidens of the Lord, ready and willing to use their hands for good.

Distributed by http://www.christianworldviewnetwork.com/

Sex Has a Price Tag - Audio Message

Message by Pam Stenzel

Sex Has a Price Tag - Part One
Sex Has a Price Tag - Part Two

Why People Don't Read the Bible

The Top 10 Reasons Why People Don't Read The Bible

Americans revere the Bible—but, by and large, they don't read it. And because they don't read it, they have become a nation of biblical illiterates.

GEORGE GALLUP, JR.

America has changed and so have our reading habits with regard to the Bible. We have more Bibles than ever before, but we are reading them less. Americans express a longing to understand the Bible better. We believe the Bible answers most if not all of the real questions of life, but there our leather-bound, study Bibles sit—unopened.

What's the problem? Why do people who have access to so many Bibles, in so many versions, in a language they speak, who want to know more about the content of the Bible read it so infrequently?

For years I've been tracking what people tell me keeps them from reading their Bible consistently. Many of these reasons you may have expressed yourself. They all seem reasonable, until you take a moment and think about them.

So, in the style of David Letterman on The Late Show, here are the "Top 10" reasons people have told me they do not read their Bible.

REASON # 10 -- "I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START"

It's amusing, really, that the Bible is the only book in print in which knowing where to start is a problem. Readers of The Purpose-Driven Life knew where to start. So did readers of the Left Behind series and The Chronicles of Narnia.

Here's a novel idea: start at the beginning. In the first eleven chapters of Genesis are recorded answers to all the great issues of life. There you will learn whether you should be a deist or an atheist. There you will discover whether there is intelligent design in the universe because of a Designer or because a random explosion resulting in fantastic good luck. In these first chapters you will discover the purpose of marriage, the origins of evil, the geography of early humanity, the grace of God as well as the judgment of God. To have the best vantage point from which to understand the rest of the Bible, a good place to start is at the beginning.

Should you choose to begin in the New Testament you'll discover much of the same—stories, narratives, history, intrigue and love. Only this time the story will revolve around the life and death of Jesus Christ. You may find the reading easier here than in the Old Testament, but you will also find yourself going back to the Old Testament to get context, background and information that will help you understand the New Testament.

If you don't read your Bible because you don't know where to start, let your instincts guide you. You can start anywhere, but as in other books you read, why not start in the beginning?[i]

REASON # 9 -- "I CAN'T FIND WHAT I WANT IN THE BIBLE"

Sometimes as you are reading the Bible something will sound familiar to you. You'll say to yourself, I've read something like that before. Occasionally people are kept from reading the Bible because they are haunted by the memory of a story, a saying or even a word and can't remember where they read it.

Here's a good way to handle the problem. Read your Bible with an open notebook, laptop or journal nearby. When you encounter something that strikes you as particularly important or interesting, jot it down. Keep a list. Don't rely on your memory. There's an old Chinese proverb that says, "The smallest amount of ink is stronger than the largest amount of memory." Write it down.

There are also Bible study aids that will help you find what you want in the Bible. A concordance, for example, is a book or computer program that lists every verse in the Bible in which a particular word is used. If you encounter something that sounds familiar, use a concordance to see where you may have come across that word before. And then there is software. We've got it coming out of our ears. Logos has an incredibly complete program of Bible study tools all in one package that will be more than you will ever use in a lifetime. Don't let your inability to find something in the Bible keep you from reading it. The fact is, the more you read, the easier it will be to locate things. So, just keep reading.

REASON # 8 -- "THE BIBLE DOESN'T CONFIRM WHAT I BELIEVE"

I received a letter from a radio listener in California. This young wife wrote: "I'm planning to divorce my husband. We were saved about the same time a couple of years ago, but he isn't growing as fast spiritually as I am. In fact, I feel like he's holding me back spiritually. Now I've met this guy at our church fellowship group who is already divorced. He and I are so much more compatible spiritually and I believe God may be leading us to each other, maybe even to marriage. It feels right to me. What do you think?"
Frankly, this woman wasn't at all interested in what I thought; she wanted me to give my blessing to her sin. She wasn't interested in what the Bible said unless it confirmed what she felt was "right."

Some people choose not to read the Bible because they're afraid it will contradict what they've already made up their mind to do.

REASON # 7 -- "I HEAR THE BIBLE AT CHURCH, WHY DO I NEED TO READ IT FOR MYSELF?"

In the first days of the church, the early Christians compensated for their lack of personal copies of the scriptures by reading extensively from the Bible as part of the church service. That's why Paul said to Timothy, "Devote yourself to reading" (1Timothy 4:13). It was a common practice for huge portions of Scripture to be read at public services so that in a year the early congregations would hear the entire Bible read aloud. Today, however, we have our own copies of the Bible and it is becoming less common to hear portions of Scripture read in church.

Does your pastor read Scripture in your weekly church service? Does he read an entire book? Likely not. How about a chapter? Too long. Would an average of five verses be about right? If that's all the Scripture you ever read, those five verses would only be 260 verses a year. How long do you think it would take to hear the entire Bible read? Go ahead. Guess. You're not even close.

If you don't read the Bible yourself because you hear it read at church, in order to hear all the Bible read you'd have to live an astonishing 120.6 years.[ii] Still think you don't need to read the Bible for yourself? You'd better enjoy an extraordinarily long life.

REASON # 6 -- "THE LANGUAGE OF THE BIBLE DOESN'T MAKE SENSE TO ME"

When I was growing up some words in my Bible were more than a little difficult to understand. When James instructed us to "lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness" (James 1:21), I admit I was a bit puzzled by what that meant. And when someone in church went to the pastor admitting, "Pastor, I have been guilty of evil concupiscence" (Colossians 3:5), I can just see the puzzled look on the pastor's face and hear him say, "Let me get back to you on that."

Actually, the more I read the Bible the less difficulty I had even understanding Elizabethan English. When I encountered a word I didn't understand, I looked it up. That's what I did when reading other books too.

Years ago it was easy to blame the language of the Bible for our lack of Bible reading. "It's King James' fault. His language is so old fashioned. If I just had a Bible in modern English, then I'd read it," everyone argued. Well, now we have dozens of Bibles in easy-to-read 21st century English and we are reading less now than ever before.

The best way to make the unfamiliar language of the Bible familiar to you is not to set your Bible on the shelf but to hide it in your heart.

There may be words and concepts in the Bible that puzzle you still. But don't let that stop you from reading it. After all, the more you read unfamiliar words or concepts, the more familiar they become.

REASON # 5 -- "THE BIBLE IS SUCH A BIG BOOK, I COULD NEVER READ IT ALL"

You're right. The Bible is a big book. In fact, the Bible is a library, a collection of 66 books. Some are quite long—Genesis, Matthew, Isaiah, Acts—but others are quite short—Philippians, Malachi, Colossians, Zephaniah. In fact, five books in this library have only one chapter.[3] One book has just two chapters.[4]

"Maybe you think of the Bible the way you think of Tolstoy's War and Peace. You know it's supposed to be a classic, and you've got nothing against it. But it's too long,[5] and it's just not your thing. Well, it might be okay to skip War and Peace, but the Bible isn't just another literary classic. It's the one book you can't afford to neglect."[6] But is the length of the books in the Bible really the reason why people don't read them? Did you read any of the Harry Potter books? The first, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone, was the shortest at 309 pages. By book four, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire, J. K. Rowling was up to 734 pages. Book five, Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, was 870 pages. No complaints or excuses there.

Don't you find it odd that Harry Potter readers wait outside bookstores at midnight to get the next HP release, but when it comes time to reading the only Book God every wrote, we say it's too long. I don't think God is buying that.

REASON # 4 -- "THE BIBLE ISN'T RELEVANT TO MY LIFE"

Sometimes the Bible doesn't seem to speak to our 21st century needs. After all, think of all the words that aren't in the Bible: AIDS, computer, text messaging, NASCAR, Alaskan cruise, etc. But maybe the Bible would speak more to us if we read more of it and were more sensitive in applying to our lives what we do read. Let me give you an example. Bill Armstrong was a young businessman in my church. He and his partner sold and installed security systems in homes. Bill was a Christian but Jack, his business partner, was not. Soon a conflict arose between Bill and Jack over a security device that Bill knew was overpriced and inadequate. Jack wanted to up sell the customers on features that both Bill and Jack knew were just bells and whistles. Bill was hesitant because he knew the device was not as reliable as one with fewer features. He prayed and asked God for guidance. Bill wanted to check out his Bible but didn't know where to look. Had Bill been more familiar with his Bible, he would have easily drawn principles by which to conduct his business.

God told the Israelites always to be fair in business. "You shall not have in your bag differing weights, a heavy and a light one" (Deuteronomy 25:13), implying that some merchants would cheat their customers with a weight that was lighter than the standard. Bill had apparently not read any of the apostle Paul's comments about honesty in business. He told the Corinthian believers that they must provide all things honest or honorable, "not only in the sight of the Lord, but also in the sight of men" (2 Corinthians 8:21).

One day Bill couldn't take it anymore. He came to me seeking advice. I steered him to some of these verses and when he left he knew what he had to do. Bill bought out Jack's interest in their business (2 Corinthians 6:14). He quit selling the overpriced but inferior alarm systems. He told his customers what features could be added to any system, but let them decide for themselves. People appreciated Bill's new candor and today his business is booming.

The Bible's relevance to our lives isn't determined by what it says; it's determined by what we know of what it says. If you can't put your finger on any passages of Scripture that speak to your needs, that doesn't mean there aren't any. More familiarity with the Bible through reading will bring more relevancy for the Bible in your life.[7]

REASON # 3 -- "THE BIBLE IS BORING AND WASN'T WRITTEN TO ME ANYWAY"

If some portions of the Bible seem boring to you, you're not alone. Even a spiritual giant like John Bunyan, author of the classic Christian allegory Pilgrim's Progress, once said, "I have sometimes seen more in a line of the Bible than I could well tell how to stand under, and yet at another time the whole Bible hath been to me as dry as a stick."

Bunyan's candor is exactly the point. There are portions of the Bible that are not as exciting as others—Leviticus, Ezekiel, Obadiah—but the whole Bible isn't like that. Let's be fair. You may have to slosh through some places in Scripture and look closely for application to your life, but the vast majority of the Bible has ready application.

In the Bible you will find love stories (Isaac and Rebekah, Jacob and Rachel, Joseph and Mary), war stories (Joshua and the Amalekites, Hezekiah and the Assyrians, David and the Philistines), stories of international intrigue (Daniel, Moses, the Magi), and stories of family conflict (Jacob and his sons, the prodigal and his father, Cain and Abel). You'll also read of death threats (Mordecai), attempts on one's life (Paul), and even a story about a boy king hidden from his own grandmother so she wouldn't kill him (Joram and Athaliah).

So what's your interest? The Bible has it all—danger, intrigue, passion, jealousy, betrayal, love, honor, it's all in there.

Sometimes it does feel like your reading someone else's mail when you read the Bible. But that's true of every other book too. The fact is, there is more addressed to you personally in the Bible than in any book ever written. The reason is clear: the Bible is God's love letter to you, and whether He is telling you someone's story or predicting the future, the bottom line is how you fit in the plan of God as outlined in His Word.

2. "READING THE BIBLE ISN'T A PRIORITY IN MY LIFE"

In our "Top 10" list the reasons for not reading the Bible are becoming both more honest and more to the point. How much you read your Bible depends on how valuable you think that time will be.

Rabbi Daniel Lapin makes an interesting observation about time. He says:

"Most people who travel for business spend about the same number of days per year on the road as our great-grandfathers did. The reason for this synchronicity is clear. Most people subconsciously calculate the amount of time they are willing to spend away from family and friends and the amount of discomfort they are willing to endure. They then plug this figure into their economic ambition, massage the resulting equation a little, and emerge with a figure representing roughly how many days each year they are willing to travel for business. All of this is done subconsciously; it even gets updated from time to time.6 "

The rabbi's point is this: you do only what you think is valuable. You will read God's Word only if you deem it personally profitable. If you see the Bible as of little value, you will place little value on reading it. It won't be a priority. If, however, you see it as the only book God ever wrote, as God's way of communicating with you, as the only reliable guide for successful living, reading the Bible will become your priority.

"Today, unless you were brought up under a rock, or in a stone age tribe in a jungle somewhere, you know in your heart that there is a book called the Holy Bible, that you should be reading. Biblical illiteracy is 99.9% a matter of choice."[8]

REASON # 1 -- "I DON'T HAVE TIME TO READ THE BIBLE"

The most common excuse for not reading the Bible is our busy lives. We don't seem to have time to do the things we know we should do. There's work and school, running to the store, soccer practice, dinner—life is just a bit harried. Who has time to sit and read? You do. Here's why.

Time is a set quantity. It's not elastic. We all have 60 seconds in every minute, 60 minutes in every hour, 24 hours in every day. Time may fly, but it doesn't change. You have one thousand four hundred and forty golden minutes in every day and so do I.

The issue is never about time, it's always about what we choose to get done in the time we have, and that takes us right back to our priorities. Is reading God's Word, meditating and benefiting from it, something you wish to take some time each day to do or not? If not, the convenient way to express your lack of desire is to say, "I don't have time." But we both know time isn't the problem.

A couple of years ago I took a stopwatch with me everywhere I flew. I would read my Bible while in flight and time how long it took to read each book of the Bible. Once returning from Frankfort on a flight to Chicago a flight attendant saw the stopwatch around me neck and asked, "Are you timing our service?" I chuckled and said, "No, I'm timing how long it takes me to read my Bible." With a puzzled look on her face she inquired why someone would want to do that. I said, "Because everybody tells me they would read their Bible but they don't have time. I want to know how much time they don't have."

Did you know that you can read half the books of the Bible in less than 30 minutes each? You can read 26 of them in less than 15 minutes. The whole Bible, cover to cover, can be read by an average reader in less than 72 hours.

Maybe it's time we rethink our reasons for not reading the Bible and just call them what they are--excuses.

Take another look at these "Top Ten." How many of them are excuses you've given to God for not reading His Word? If you can see through them so quickly, imagine how easily He can see through them.

The Bible is read by people who choose to read it. Bible reading is neglected by people who choose to neglect it. It's just that simple.

No excuses. Just honesty.

[i] There are many fine guides to reading the Bible that will help you read the entire book in a year or more. Back to the Bible provides seven such guides in a READ ME Bible guides packet. Some reading schedules are found on-line. Wherever you start your reading, the important thing is to start, and don't quit.

[ii] In the King James Bible, there are 31,373 verses.
[1] There are many fine guides to reading the Bible that will help you read the entire book in a year or more. Back to the Bible provides seven such guides in a READ ME Bible guides packet. Some reading schedules are found on-line. Wherever you start your reading, the important thing is to start, and don't quit.
[2] In the King James Bible, there are 31,373 verses.
[3] Obadiah, Philemon, 2 John, 3 John, and Jude
[4] Haggai
[5] Leo Tolstoy's book is one of the longest classics in history. The W. W. Norton & Company 1996 second edition translated and edited by George Gibian contains the 15 books and 365 chapters of War and Peace in 1,300 pages.
[6] The Good Book, October 6, 1996, (www.backtogodhour.org/sermons)
[7]To learn more about what the Bible says regarding various topics, see: http://www.bibletopics.com/ 6 Rabbi Daniel Lapin, Lapin, America's Real War. (Sisters, OR: Multnomah Publishers, 1999), 27-28.
[8] The High Cost of Illiteracy (www.fellowshipinhislove.com/illiteracy.html

Arise, My Soul, Arise

By Charles Wesley

(Sung by Twila Paris)

Arise, my soul, arise; shake off thy guilty fears;
The bleeding sacrifice in my behalf appears:
Before the throne my surety stands,
Before the throne my surety stands,
My name is written on His hands.

He ever lives above, for me to intercede;
His all redeeming love, His precious blood, to plead:
His blood atoned for all our race,
His blood atoned for all our race,
And sprinkles now the throne of grace.

Five bleeding wounds He bears; received on Calvary;
They pour effectual prayers; they strongly plead for me:
“Forgive him, O forgive,” they cry,
“Forgive him, O forgive,” they cry,
“Nor let that ransomed sinner die!”

The Father hears Him pray, His dear anointed One;
He cannot turn away, the presence of His Son;
His Spirit answers to the blood,
His Spirit answers to the blood,
And tells me I am born of God.

My God is reconciled; His pardoning voice I hear;
He owns me for His child; I can no longer fear:
With confidence I now draw nigh,
With confidence I now draw nigh,
And “Father, Abba, Father,” cry.